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GRACE

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on June 20, 2013

Image You can choose how to live; what kind of disposition you will have, what kind of attitude, demeanor and actions. You can support people or ignore them or practice behaviors that may hurt them. The choice is yours to make.

You can live in a state of grace behaving the best way possible for you. That is putting your best foot forward so to speak. Being kind, understanding and patient. Giving to those in need. Staying calm during a crisis or emergency. Being thankful and grateful for what you do have.

This state of mind, being and body may take practice or work. Your natural inclination may not always instantly be how to take the “road less traveled”. You may have times in your life where you want to shout, scream, and rail against the circumstances. But after you do all of that, what choices will you make? How will them impact others? Who will your actions benefit? What kind of a person do you want to be known as?  What traits are important to you?

Do you admire people who seem to live in a state of grace who appear to handle everything effectively, quickly with thoughts and care for all concerned. Do you let your natural poise and calm take over in a difficult situation or do you become overly concerned with yourself and your own needs to the detriment of others involved?

Or, on the other hand, do you take extraordinary care of everyone else, pets and plants included, and save the last ounces of your strength and energy for yourself.

 “I do not at all understand the mystery of grace – only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.”             -Anne Lamott

 

That is not living in kindness or grace for yourself. Possibly there is a way to take care of others and yourself effectively and not lose that calm or peace you practice.

 

If you are having difficulty achieving this state of mind, you may need to stop going it alone and ask for some help or guidance on the matter. For some it isn’t easy to live in a state of grace all the time. But it can be learned and it can be improved upon each day. The reward is a more peaceful, nurturing and impactful existence.

 

“Grace is available for each of us every day – our spiritual daily bread – but we’ve got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and not worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow.”     -Sarah Ban Breathnach quotes

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

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STAYING CALM

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on November 9, 2012
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People from all over the country and the world have watched as the storm Sandy and it’s aftermath has ravaged parts of the tri state and surrounding areas.

Some people have lost homes, cars and other vehicles. Many have lost power as well as phone service, cable, cell service and internet.

“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.” -Charlie Chaplin

How has that impacted those watching and those involved? There have been a variety of reactions. Many people have helped others whether they were directly involved or from a distance. Most folks seem to show a genuine care and concern for those involved. Some have opened up their homes to others who had no or less utility service. For most people in the area it is in the forefront of their mind. And everyone is talking about it, their experience and their losses, coping strategies and recovery.

Even if you are not in this area or the surrounding area you have likely dealt with challenge, surprises, sudden change and loss and how to best cope with it.

The first key to adapting and handling new circumstances is to stay calm.

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” -Baba Ram Dass

When a person is in a neutral state they are more able to think clearly and make good choices. They may be more able to write lists of what they need to accomplish and carry them out. Also, they might be more likely to ask for help, delegate and make a team effort when life’s needs and demands become larger than their capacity to cope, overcome or make a positive outcome.

It is important to be aware of your capabilities and limits so you can keep your tasks and accountability within a demand level you can achieve. For some sudden change and potential disaster can have them feeling at the edge of their stress level and tense.

“The tighter you squeeze, the less you have.” -Ma-Tsu

Practicing meditation, getting help, sharing about your problems and challenges, asking for assistance to solve your dilemmas and not going it alone can be very im-portant. Under extreme or prolonged duress people more than ever may need support, understanding, a good ear, advice and a shoulder to cry on so to speak.

If this is you get the help before it is too late and you are overwhelmed and can’t reach out. You don’t need any more losses than you already have.

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

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The Storm

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on November 2, 2012
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Whether or not you have been directly impacted by the storm, it is a very prominent and important part of the news of late. Our hearts go out to those who have had severe losses, dislocation, disrup-tion and stress. We wish strength, help and confi-dence to those in need and suffering from this huge deluge.

People may be in various stages of coping with this storm. Some are not di-rectly involved; watching on television, listening to the radio or getting information online. They may have concerns about family, friends or loved ones, or those they don’t know who are displaced and coping with so much upheaval.

There are those who had comparatively minor inconveniences of loss of tv, phone or internet, or short power losses.

And then there are those for whom this has been difficult and unsettling who may be still without power, who have difficulty driving with the street lights out, long gasoline lines if they are open at all and grocery stores closed.

Finally there are those for whom the storm has been catastrophic; they have lost a home, or it is still sub-merged with water, along with their possessions. They have been relocated to stay in shelters, or with family or friends. They may have had neighborhoods with flooded streets and homes as well.

Hopefully whatever situa-tion you may be in, you can do your best to get back to some normalcy and routine. You may need to ask for help from many until you can get what you need to survive and thrive again.

“Storms make trees take deeper roots.”     -Dolly Parton

Those who are in a position to give, can offer to take people in until their power is restored or they have a habitable home. You can share food, drink and warm clothes and blankets for those who have no heat.

Try to remain strong and know that things will get better in time. Don’t go it alone, if you need help have the courage to reach out. There are plenty who would like to help you and your loved ones.

“The greater the difficulty the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests.” -Epictetus

In an emergency:

  • Triage: Focus on the urgent needs first.
  • Make sure you have a way to communicate with loved ones.
  • Get extra supplies in case it takes longer than anticipated to regain services.
  • Contact local agencies for help and services.
  • Be aware and cautious when driving with no traffic light or signal. Be defensive. Don’t rush.
  • Try to stay as calm and centered as you can.
  • Stay in touch with people who support and care about you and your well being.

 We wish you all the best and are here for anything you may need.

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

631-567-0008

 

Positive Outcomes

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on October 17, 2012

Can you create a positive outcome regardless of the
actions of others and the world? I think most times you
can. What compromises a positive end result? Is it your
thoughts, beliefs, actions or intentions? Do you need to
think on it, pray over it, believe in it, work on it? Or is it
all of the above? Do you have to get help, make a plan,
follow it, assess your progress? Is making things go well
an easy project for you? Or difficult?

They say some people are like the “golden child” and things seem to
naturally and easily go well for them. Some are like the “black
sheep” and they feel like they have a black cloud over all that they do.
Some may feel like “Pigpen” from the Peanut’s cartoon, who had a
dust cloud around him in a halo of poor luck.
Is it what we are born with that matters, or what we do with it? Is it
how we view things or is there a way it really is?

“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and
achieves the impossible.”        -Unknown

Do we perceive that we can make a difference in our own life and those of others? Are we living a life of service to ourselves, family, friends or mankind? Do these things matter to us?

This is where our perception makes all the difference and can push us in a positive direction. When we see ourselves as an integral part of the lives of others, we feel more positive about ourselves and act accordingly.

However, even when acknowledging the way things really are, we can still achieve a positive outcome. We need to come up with a plan and figure out what might be holding us back or standing in our way. Only then can we figure out how to remove the obstacles and continue on our way to realizing a positive outcome. It’s the old story , “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. It is with this attitude that you will never be held back no matter what your reality is.

You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the sub-stantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.”

                                                                                       -Ralph Martson

Tips For Staying Positive

  • Assess your situation, decide what is workable.
  • Create a plan to remove obstacles.
  • Learn something from the situation—everything happens for a reason.
  • Network with others who have had similar experiences.
  • Remember nothing is forever. This will pass.
  • Reward yourself for small victories and patience!

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

631-567-0008

Getting Beyond

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on October 17, 2012

Sometimes there is a situation, thing or
circumstance and you want to be over
it. And at those times it may or may
not be a time where it could be put
behind you. For example you might
want to be over being ill. Or have a
loved one heal and it hasn’t happened
yet and you need to be patient. Or
get a second opinion or do research to
help them find the right help. Or you
are waiting until your children are
older so they can get into grade school
or go to camp so you can get some
well deserved rest. You might be waiting
to find a job. And you could be
waiting to finish school.

Sometimes being in the process is the
most difficult part. We can be ok if we
are busy or doing what we want. But
when we are waiting the painstakingly
long time for something to happen,
that can be more difficult. And when
it is out of our control, that is possibly
even harder.

“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe.”

-Gail Devers

There lies the key to our ability to get
past these hard times in our lives. We
cannot beat ourselves up over things
we have no control over. We can only
move past a situation by focusing on
the things we do have control over.
We cannot magically wish the illness
away, but gaining as much information
about it and finding out what
may help ease the symptoms or fears
of the patient can go a long way to
moving forward and getting beyond
the illness. We cannot instantly have
our children grow and mature before
our eyes (nor would we really want
that) but we can think about that
time and plan what we may like to
do with the new found time and freedom.
And in the meantime, nurture
our interests in whatever way our
present situation allows.

This all involves our perspective. Our perspective of the situation will possibly make or break the outcome. Do we look at milestones of our progress? Do we appreciate and take time to relish in our accomplishments? Do we berate ourselves for not being yet at the desired goal? Do we learn to be in the moment and look for the good instead of fearing the worst?

“Cherish your visions and your

dreams as they are the children of

your soul, the blueprints of your

ultimate achievements.”

-Napoleon Hill

Playing the Waiting Game

  • Look at the process as a whole and in parts. Know where each begins and ends. Acknowledge success when each part is completed.
  • Separate out what you can and cannot control. Focus energy on only what you have control over. Be patient during the time when you have no control over the situation.
  • Remember to live in the here and now and enjoy the process when you can, just enduring it or looking for the end of it, only makes it seem longer.
  • Seek encouragement and support when you need it. We all run short of patience and become overwhelmed,especially during a difficult or trying situation.
  • Ask for help.

“Dream the impossible because

dreams do come true.”

-Elijah Wood

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

631-567-0008

Finding More Joy

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on October 17, 2012

Some philosophers have said that to be happy one must not focus on how to be so.  That happiness comes naturally when people are involved in other pursuits.  Others have suggested that one must work on happiness through spiritual or religious practices, self growth, mindfulness, being in the present. Possibly, both are true.  Many of our happiest moments may have been times we found ourselves meeting wonderful new people or making new friends, getting carried away with the fun and laughter at a party or dance.

“I sometimes wonder whether all pleasures are not substitutes for joy.”   -C. S. Lewis

               “ Joy delights in joy.”

                           –William Shakespeare

 

Or as is suggested, people can be “working on” their present or future satisfaction by developing their inner life and self.  Self growth, prayer, meditation, yoga—many of these practices are designed to assist a person in connection with their higher self and experience bliss from within.  These and other practices may help a person to experience the rapture and joy of getting to the core of who they are, accepting themselves and loving themselves as well.

 “Happiness is a journey, not a destination….dance like no one’s watching.”   -Crystal Boyd

Do you experience joy?  Do you share your joy with others?  Do you have mentorship or guidance on your path to a more fulfilling life?  Are you on too much of a treadmill with life and work to be able to fit in the necessary time and experiences to be happier?  Do you know what you need to be happy? 

“Joy is the holy fire that keeps our purpose warm and our intelligence aglow.”

                                                                    —Helen Keller

                   SIMPLE JOYS

                     A good book

                    A delicious meal

                    A great conversation

                    A quiet moment or two

                    A natural wonder

                    A big hug

                    A hearty laugh

 

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

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BECOMING INSPIRED

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on March 1, 2012

Who or what inspires you?

 For some it’s their work, career. For others, it’s their family of origin, husband or wife, siblings or extended family.  There are those for whom their children motivate them. And those who are moved by pets.  Still others are inspired by education. And those for whom fun, play, time off and events make them happy.  For some, vacations or leisure time or retirement are what keep them most alive and alert.

 Do you know what makes you feel at your best?  Is it something to do, something you feel?  Or something you listen to or read about? For historians the past informs and awakens them, as well as biographies and different cultures. For entrepreneurs, their vision and ideas and possibilities may move them.

 For some, color makes them feel enlivened.  And still others are motivated by music.  And those that feel revitalized and renewed by nature.  Athletes may feel their most vital, well and energized by exercise, movement, competition and teamwork. Spirituality brings out the best in some.  A natural and healthy lifestyle calms and creates peace and harmony for others. Meditation can bring a person to their deepest self and awareness of who they are and what their purpose in the world is.

 

“Just don’t give up on trying to do what you really want to do. Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”

       -Ella Fitzgerald

 Volunteering and helping others makes some people shine and glow with pleasure as they see situations improve and others benefit from their hard work, words and deeds in the world.  Does a beautiful photo inspire you?  A gallery of stunning artwork? A museum of ancient artifacts?  Looking up at a sky full of stars?

 When people are at their most awakened they can create, they can function at peak performance.  They can also be the most content, and experience bliss, heightened awareness as well as deeper love and romance.

 

“Do not quench your inspiration and your imagination; do not become the slave of your model.”

 -Vincent Van Gogh

 

What Inspires You?

 Play

Work

Sports

Sharing

A Smile

Singing

Reading

Self Growth

Acts of Kindness

Achieving Goals

Laughter

Moonlight

Romance

Dancing

The Rain

The Sun

Walks

Snow

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

 WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

 631-567-0008

 

 

 

 

 

BEING ON THE CUTTING EDGE

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on March 1, 2012

What does it take to be on the cutting edge?  Are you up to date, aware of the latest trends, ready for action?

In some areas possibly you are and others maybe not.

While we can’t ask for perfection from ourselves, certainly we can give forth our very best effort to do things at peak

performance.

At work do you give 100%, or are you often distracted by personal issues?  In your business do you take extra time to get yourself, staff and your business functioning at optimal efficiency?  Do you know what that would be like in your business or personal life or do you know how to determine it?

Do you research better ways to do things?  Do you just put up with things that don’t work in your work or private life?

  “The world can only be grasped by action, not by contemplation. The hand is the cutting edge of the mind.”  

        –Diane Arbus

What are people like who are at the top of their game?  Who are leaders in their community, families, and work environment?

Do you put the care, time, respect and devotion into the areas of life that matter most to you?  Have you prioritized your goals so you know which are the most important ones you need to focus your energy on and have a mastery of?

Do you take pride in all areas of your life?

Recognizing the growth potential in your business and your private life is the first step to becoming cutting edge.  The second is having the courage to try something thing new!

“It is dangerously destabilizing to have half the world on the cutting edge of technology while the other half struggles on the bare edge of survival.”

            -Bill Clinton

How To Work On Being Cutting Edge

  •  Be up on the latest technology and what it can do to help your business and/or personal life.
  •  Practice giving your undivided attention to the project at hand.
  • Try new foods, new restaurants, new clubs, new vacations—expand your horizons!
  •  Read current authors and current best sellers. Know who is relevant in your field of work or areas of interest.
  •  Try new activities, get out of your comfort zone. Camping, whitewater rafting, snorkeling , gardening….
  •  Try a new hobby, learn a new skill. Woodworking, needlecraft, dancing, singing, tennis…

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

WWW.SUCCESSFULLIFECOACHNG.COM

631-567-0008

 

Getting Unstuck

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on March 1, 2012

We have the areas in life that are easier and those that are more difficult. Some of us have a natural talent for athletics, art, finance, organization or business. Others are poor in these areas and abilities are elsewhere.

It is typical to excel in the areas that are simpler for us to accomplish and we may struggle at the projects that are hard to figure out.

Sometimes people don’t finish a goal because they are bored, tired or uninspired. What or who gets you motivated?

Others may not feel they deserve to get the rewards associated with accomplishing their goals. Some may not know how to determine, plan or finish their goals. And sometimes people are too busy to finish everything. Or they have taken on too many projects and it is unrealistic for them to think they can do them all. When a person has perfectionist tendencies they may try to do more in a day then they actually are capable of doing only to leave them always feeling like they are failing and keeping them unmotivated to complete any task.

“You have to find something that you love enough to be able to take risks, jump over the hurdles and break through the brick walls that are always going to be placed in front of you. If you don’t have that kind of feeling for what it is you are doing, you’ll stop at the first giant hurdle.” -George Lucas

Do you know your good areas; where you excel? Do you get help for the areas you are poor in? Do you get stopped when you are trying to accomplish something and you hit a roadblock?

Obstacles are generally a part of any goal. It is the part where you get stuck. Then the issue is whether you are going to continue or just stop.

It can be a tough call. If the goal is very important to you, it can be worth it to hang in there, get support if you need to and reach the desired outcome.

What category are you in?

Like to begin something new

Enjoy the process and the middle

Love the end and the end result

“You cannot be wimpy out there on the dream-seeking trail. Dare to break through barriers, to find your own path.” -Les Brown

I have always grown from my problems and chal-lenges, from the things that don’t work out, that’s when I’ve really learned.”

                                                                                                      -Carol Burnett

“The experienced mountain climber is not intimidated by a mountain — he is inspired by it. The persistent winner is not discouraged by a problem — he is chal-lenged by it. Mountains are created to be conquered; adversities are designed to be defeated; problems are sent to be solved. It is better to master one mountain than a thousand foothills .”

                                                                                       -William Arthur Ward

Katrina Greene, MSW

 Successful Life Coaching

 www.successfullifecoaching.com

 631-567-0008

GETTING ORGANIZED

Posted in Uncategorized by Successful Life Coaching on December 8, 2011

The “old” way of being organized in the books on the topic had a person start at the beginning and organize their entire home, career, spouse, children, etc! The “new” idea on organizing, given that most people are short on time, is to do the priority or most necessary organizing in order that you have what you need.

In other words, in the past if you were to organize your car, you might take everything out of each compartment, flap, holder and trunk. In this new way, if you only have a few minutes to designate to the task, you might just buy a visor for the driver’s side and house your ez-pass, or toll money, directions and a pen and memo pad. That way you would be ready for anything you need while driving, and an emergency kit and car fire extinguisher, of course.

Or if you wanted to organize your office and couldn’t do the entire area, you could clear your desk, put the priority papers in order there, make a “to do” folder, and store the rest to file later. You can have a “to read” and a “to delegate” folder as well if you have others to delegate to.

If procrastination is a problem, you need to get motivated to do the tasks at hand knowing that even a small time invested in getting organized should pay off in feeling more in control, cen-tered, and confident with less lost time looking for things and increased revenue resulting from the time you can reinvest in your work.

Many people feel that being organized adds to peace of mind, tranquility and a calmer outlook. It can make you more prepared for the day and the tasks at hand. Organization can help your productivity as well.

“You will never “find” time for anything. If you want time, you  must make it.”                                                           -Charles Bruxton

I recommend you take care of the minutes and the hours will take care of themselves.”        -Earl of Chesterfield

“Don’t agonize— Organize!”            -Florynce Kennedy

Being Organized Can Help:

The day go more smoothly

You look better and more put together

Promote inner calm

Prepare you for sudden events (You know you are ready)

Enable you to help others

Prevent mistakes

Troubleshoot future events

Plan ahead

After your efforts to take care of things, remember to:

Enjoy yourself

Have more fun

Reward yourself

Give yourself a present

Pat yourself on the back🙂

KATRINA GREENE, MSW

SUCCESSFUL LIFE COACHING

http://www.successfullifecoaching.com

631-567-0008

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